Monday, October 6, 2008

seriously. unbelievable. seriously.

Sam can say seriously now. Well, sort of, and it is so cute. I think he learned to say it because I've said it maybe 1000 times this week. Seriously. It is because this has been the most unbelievable week. I still kind of don't even believe it myself which is probably why I keep saying seriously. It was a rough week to be sure but then the weekend happened and well, now its just the craziest week of my life.

Doug got shot in the neck on Saturday. By a gang member. With a real gun. On Saturday morning, before noon. Seriously. He's totally fine. He even drove home. The bullet just grazed his neck. But still, my husband, got shot in the neck. seriously.

We were doing some community service. We got together with my sister and some friends and bought 20 bags of staple groceries for some families on the other side of town. We delivered the groceries and had a really great time meeting these families. We finished delivering a bit early so the coordinators of the whole service project said we could help out another team doing some clean up on the street. So there we were, my husband, my sister, a bunch of friends & Sammy, working away when some "gang bangers" did a drive by. Seriously. I was holding Sam, standing just a few feet away from Doug when he got hit. It was so crazy, we thought it was fireworks at first. Doug yelled some bad word not fit for family blogs, shook it off and started getting back to work. I looked over at him and his neck was bleeding. Next thing you know, the police are there. They took a look at Doug's neck, told us a little about who the trouble-makers were, started writing a report, and more shots go off just down the street. The police take off running, someone says, "that's it, its over, get the baby in the car, go home" and so we do. Just like that. Seriously.

The whole way home we kept saying stuff like Holy S*&T, you just got shot in the neck, and then for some reason we'd just start laughing. I laughed most of the day about it. It was just too crazy to be real. When we got home, Sam's diaper needed to be changed and Doug says, "can you do it? 'cause I just got shot. in the neck" which made me laugh even more.

The whole shooting has actually turned out to be a good thing. It was a great comic relief for a day, which even though totally innappropriate, was totally needed. I really needed something to snap my mind out of the worry fog that I was in. And Doug getting shot in the neck did the trick.

And more seriously, it has done wonders for changing my perspective and bringing me back to reality. Reality is most people aren't fortunate enough to live like I do. Reality for most of the world isn't just about getting together with friends and family dinners and vacations and going to the park. And even though I know better, I forget, and my world gets small again, and I'm out of touch with reality.

So, I'm thankful. Thankful for my dad, for my husband, and my son, who are all alive today and happy. And I'm thankful that I have this day to show them that I love them. I'm thankful to be in a position to help, to be an advocate for, and to love people, close to home and around the world that just live in a different reality than mine. A real tragedy would be to go through life out of touch with the bigger picture, the real picture.

The only real draw back to the shooting incident is now I have to deal with Doug's foolishness. He now refers to himself as street, gansta, thug-life and more innappropriate for family blogs type things. I'm afraid he's going to ask me to call him Big Poppa soon and that will just be crossing the line.
***just to clarify, I don't think violence is funny under normal cirucmstances, nor have I ever before laughed about someone getting shot. Just my husband.

19 comments:

Danni and Tommy said...

Seriously!? Wow.

paige said...

Who knew the mean streets of our town could be so, well...mean? Honestly, this is one of those too good to be true stories (but I'm awfully glad it is--the alternative seems quite grim). So happy it's helped your perspective too.

Be well---all of you!

Amy said...

That is unbelievable! So glad everyone is ok. It does make for a very interesting (and yes even funny story).

Jocelyn said...

THAT IS NUTS~~ Glad to hear that Doug is ok and I will make sure that I call him gangsta Doug when we get to meet:-)

Rebecca said...

Your husband definitely has street cred now :) I was laughing at the story before you wrote that you all laughed at it later. I was feeling bad, but I was thinking about how we would react should that happen to us. I love that he wouldn't change Sam's diaper because he just got shot. I'm dying laughing while I'm even writing this! Hilarity.

The Albertsons said...

WHAT?
Dude. That is crazy. I have to tell my husband this. I would've laughed too, b/c it really is unbelievable. But you are spot on when you say it would be worse to go through life without knowing that most of the world lives with those kinds of threats every. day.
That being said, I'm so grateful that he wasn't hurt badly. Wow.
(ps, tell Doug that even though he doesn't know me, I'm just as gangsta, b/c I had a knife held to my throat in Romania once. Seriously!)
becca

Ted and Lori said...

Wow, so glad that he's okay...and I admit that I laughed at his excuse for getting out of changing the diaper.

Laura Pflug said...

It is kind of funny...I mean picturing Doug getting shot...he is a dentist for crying out loud! Who would have thought that Doug would have a, "remember that time I got shot" story. Glad he is okay!

Eric and Tara said...

SERIOUSLY?? What the??
That is the craziest thing I have ever heard...and even hilarious, with the way you wrote about it! You crack me up!

I think it is a sign that Sam and Mal are both lions...they are twins and have all things in common. Cute hats...cute lion costumes... :)

Jen said...

Wow! I think that I would have been thinking...is this really happening? This kind of stuff happens in the movies...and then you realize that it happens for some everyday. My 16 year old has a friend from school that can not go back out once he gets home, for fear that he may be caught in the crossfire. I am so glad that you, your husband, and Sammy are okay. Still praying for your Dad.

Jodi said...

Oh my - Seriously. I am just laughing at your funny post - seriously. I can't even imagine getting shot in the neck or anywhere else for that matter. Glad you are all ok -

kristine said...

I just found your blog. I'm sorry your husband got shot. I think. I'm not sure because of course, he's alright but also because you made me laugh out loud with the diaper changing quote. I don't know it was funny.

I am sorry about your father. Live in the moment as much as you can so that when he pulls through you won't have waisted time with worry.

Sam is adorable! Thanks for sharing

DawnKane said...

I feel bad admitting this, but when you said that Doug asked if you could change Sam's diaper because he just got shot, I laughed, out loud. It just sounds really absurd and the fact that it happened, you really do have to laugh because thankfully everyone is ok. Sorry for laughing but thanks for the laugh.

Dawn

Lindy Young said...

OK, we are all laughing with you and your excellent writing. I love almost everything about this post, from what you were doing to that second-to-last-paragraph about your enhanced gratitude, to the fact that somehow you guys made this into a really funny post. Although, kind of a little, at least for me, it is nervous laughter -- the spookiness of having come so, so close to everything in life being different. Which is basically, one way or another, the reality that each of us faces every day. But to have it graze its claws across your neck like that is a bit much for a random saturday afternoon.

So, funny YES, but I also wouldn't be surprised to hear that you guys go jittery and jumpy for a while now, too. GLAD you are well. Lindy

Sam said...

Ok its inappropriate that I am laughing at this because it really is really bad. But HA HA HA. The diaper comment was too much...as is the gangsta thing. He can totally sing the 50 cent song hows it go "been hit with a few shells but I dont walk with a limp (i'a a'ight)" who else can sing that besides fitty? oh my lands. wow! and you live in C-Bus oy vey. At least sam picked up seriously and not "holy sh$t."

Aimee said...

I just found your blog. My dad is sick too-very. Prostate cancer-advanced, metastatic...all of those scary words. Hang in there. There is joy and understanding to be found amidst all the rest. Doesn't make it easier, but, perhaps, more valuable. You and your dad will be in my prayers.

Stacie said...

Wow! That is an amazing story! I'm happy he is okay!!

Also - I tagged you over at our blog.

Katy said...

I seriously can't beleive I just laughed about your husband getting shot. In the neck. But, man, that diaper thing is too funny - as is the disclaimer at the bottom. Seriously funny. What a messed up world.

Jen said...

Just checking in on you and your dad. How is he holding up? Have they started treatments?